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Parenting for Success

11 Monday Feb 2013

Posted by Holly King in Parent Involvement

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One thing I know about successful parents is that they have clear boundaries and expectations for their children and they are consistently loving and firm.  They set their children up for success in life by modeling positive skills and facilitating intrinsic motivation.

The idea of moving a child from extrinsic motivation–or getting praise and affirmation from outside themselves to feel good about themselves–to intrinsic motivation–having a positive, strong sense of self and knowing they are good and valuable within themselves without needing to hear it from others all the time is a central part of raising emotionally healthy children.

When you take the time to respond to children’s behaviors and requests in a loving, kind and nurturing way–no matter what form the behavior takes, then children learn that they are unconditionally loved and supported.  This does not mean caving in to every desire and never guiding a child to better choices.  It does mean looking at the child’s level of knowledge and skill, not your own levels as an adult with more life experience, and responding to children in a way that validates their emotions and teaches them a more socially acceptable or desirable way to get that emotional need met.

One of the main ways you can do this is by modeling healthy adult interactions and interactions with the child so that they learn from what you do, not just what you say.  You can also begin to encourage children with statements like “It looks like you are working really hard.” or “I noticed that you were really mad and still remembered to use your words to tell me that you were angry.”  This helps them really get which behaviors work well and to acknowledge themselves for their effort without you having to provide the praise or validation of the child.

Begin to notice what and how you are modeling behaviors to children, and take a look at whether those are the ones you want them to learn.  If so, great–keep doing them!  If your own behaviors are often not what you’d like to see in the children in your life, start changing them!

The Importance of Play

06 Wednesday Feb 2013

Posted by Holly King in Play

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“Play energizes us and enlivens us. It eases our burdens. It renews our natural sense of optimism and opens us up to new possibilities.”  –Stuart Brown, MD

I teach parents and educators about the importance of play for young children, and I’m coming to realize that play is equally important for adults.  Children mostly already know how to play–they just need the opportunities and space to do so.  A lot of us adults have forgotten how to play–which can mean just being spontaneous, following a whim to try something new, living life as an adventure, letting our inner child bask in the sparkly, shiny rainbow of a curio shop, or full out going to the playground to swing or run or roll down the grass hill.

If you have children of your own, you have a built in playmate, just waiting for you to engage with them!  And if you don’t, you can borrow a friend’s child, take a trip to the park with a dog, or just grab a couple of friends to play an impromptu game of tag.  Play helps our brains stay creative and flexible, and connects our right, creative brain with our left, logical brain.  We get a burst of new energy through play.

My challenge to you is to think about a few ways you could bring more play into your daily life, and pick at least one to do today.  You could try to juggle, do the chicken dance, play charades or have a  joke contest.  Just do anything silly, fun and not super productive, even if it is only for two minutes.  The point is to enjoy the process, the experience, not to get to some outcome.  Notice if you’re worried about what other people will think of you.  Then do it anyway.  Better yet, invite them to join in!  Have fun and go play!

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